Let’s talk about the “F” word… And I don’t mean Fuck.

I want to discuss the “F” word today… That’s right, that dirty word FEMINISM. When I see a woman exclaim that she is “NOT A FEMINIST” it always catches me off guard. One of my favorite quotes is this: “Do you believe that all humans are equal? Do you believe that women are human? CONGRATULATIONS,…

Radical Self Reliance

We are heading to Burning Man in just a few days… Excited doesn’t even come close to describing how I feel. Couple that with anxiety and fear at not having what I need… forgetting some major essential (Which, I undoubtedly will) thusly ruining everything, and you might have a small clue. All of my friends…

The Bipolar Biological

When I was just a tiny baby my mom took me, and whatever she could quickly throw in a bag and left my biological father. She was hurriedly leaving an intensely abusive relationship which included drug and alcohol abuse (from both of them), emotional abuse and severely violent physical abuse brought on, unbeknownst to her,…

The Mouse and The Peacock

Being a strong woman is a thing of beauty. I mean, when you are almost 40 and have a reputation for making things happen, when people come to you because they KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that you can handle it, that’s a compliment, right? Indeed, it is. I love being a rock…

The Death of Friends and Friendships

By the time we are in our late thirties we have all suffered some sort of loss in friendship. We may have had to live through the physical passing of a friend, or we may have lost the friendship connection through time and distance, or maybe we lost a friend through conflict. I have experienced…

Fat Shaming vs. The Celebration of Obesity

I have been fat for a long time. Yep, I said it. FAT. I know the word is taboo and feels uncomfortable like a racial slur, but there it is in black and white. I’m a fat girl. I was very thin when I met my husband. I was also living a brutal lifestyle (more…

Mom Solo and the Crumb Snatchers

Having a husband who travels for a living is not as amazing (ahem) as you might think. My husband plays keyboards for the band Smash Mouth. He’s been with them since they began touring in 1997. We’ve always done this. It’s not new, I’m not caught off guard and it’s always a challenge. Way back…

I’m back, bitches.

It’s been two years since I contributed to my blog. Far too long. I’m back in part because I helped a friend get started with his blog and in part, because I need to write. These past two years have been the most interesting of my life. I mean, talk about finding yourself! In two…

The Healing Power of Women (there’s a penis in my pasta)

I was fortunate enough to be one of sixteen this weekend. I was able to be part of a gathering that was as fun as it was necessary. When speaking about this trip, I was asked by another woman, “You know THAT many women that you would want to spend a weekend with?” The answer…

Super Hero

I have a six year old boy who WILL NOT SHUT UP! I mean really, he is a non-stop chatterbox. Fortunately for me he is an interesting little creature. He is convinced of a world where super heros do indeed exist and where he can actually be one when he grows up. Can he? What…

Journey Through the Farmers Market

When I found out that there was a great farmer’s market just blocks away from our new house, you can guess I was thrilled! I was a regular attendee at the market in Stockton and was sure that this was going to be even better! Better and not… Bigger certainly and with a more diverse…